Christmas 2008

Hello everyone-

After conversations with my siblings, I feel it makes sense for me to post a blog to start a wider (but quick) conversation. By no means am I trying to force my opinions but I do feel compelled to voice my concerns regarding Christmas and start a conversation albeit online.

In the present economy, we (Eric, the kids & I) are compelled to re-think our spending habits. Things look different today than they did even a short month ago. As a family, we've talked about conservation in numerous ways- water, heat, spending, etc. While we have tried not to create worry in the kids, I think that it is important for them to understand that neither our nor others resources are without limits. I think this is a valuable lesson.

While we are not panicked, we are facing real risks as are many of those that we know. At least in DSM; layoffs, salary cuts and freezes are becoming commonplace. Perhaps it is due to being the insurance capitol where we are surrounded by finance.

Because things are different this year, I am suggesting that we reconsider our traditions regarding gifts in our extended family. While we love to give to those we care about, the number of gifts creates a very real expense for us all. I want to be sensitive to every member of our family from the retired to the single incomes, newly married, expectant parents, new homeowners to the young families. If there is any gift we can give, to face 2009 with less debt is a worthy one.

I know that we all enjoy giving & not a single one of us expects a thing in return. Realistically, however, it is uncomfortable to receive a gift and not to reciprocate no matter what is said. That is simply human nature. So, for some to do this and not others, simply makes the entire situation uncomfortable.

So my proposal is that for those who wish to participate, we simply draw names. Some may, for various reasons, decide to skip this year & that is perfectly fine.

Others have stated young godchildren should be included. Still others add godparents. I would counter, that brings us close to where we are now. As a parent of one of the younger kids, I have to say they won't know the difference. One gift and time with their family is a blessing.

All that said, I know time is short. I, too, plan to be shopping come Saturday. Whether it is for 1, 5 or 10 I know that I am blessed beyond words to call each of you family.

Love,
Leslie